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“You don’t have to buy from anyone. You don’t have to work at any particular job. You don’t have to participate in any given relationship. You can choose.”
– Harry Browne

When we are often the most depressed, we often say, “we have no choice.”

We always a have a choice. 

To be more satisfied in our lives, we need merely choose that which we love and prefer.

What then of he or she who is drowning in a sea of choice?

Our minds and the Law of Attraction cannot distinguish between imagination and experience. 

Using this property of mind we can try out in mind our choices to see how the feel.

Try mentally making a choice of one of the choices.  Decide on it.  Try it on in your head.  Fully feel, imagine, how this choice plays out in your mind. Feel how it feels in your gut and system as you live this choice mentally.  Take note of the feelings.   You are not looking so much to see how the choice plays out.  Rather, you should focus on how the choice feels.  Your feelings know better than you thoughts how well the choice works for you.

Then try choosing mentally another of the possible choices.  Again, go through the feelings.

As you progress through the choices, one will feel better than the others.

Choose this choice over the others.

If they all feel less than good, get help to brain storm other choices.

If you run out of time and must choose, choose the choice which felt the best of the choices you ran through.

You can also try playing out how it feels not to choose.

Sometimes where we are is better than where we may be.

It’s all choice.

Yours in choice,

Yucel

When do I get what I want?  How do I get what I want?  Am I getting what I want?  It’s really quite simple when you realize what you are choosing when you want.

What do I mean by this?

Many of us do not do the work of realizing through examination of contrast what is in our lives we desire not to choose any longer and what we now truly desire manifesting.  Michael Losier explains a great deal about this concept of contrasts in his writings. 

Am I getting what I want? 

The answer is simple if slightly convoluted.   We always get whatever we focus on, through The Law of Attraction. When we want something, we are focused on desire of what we lack.  What we thus create through wanting is more lack.

( for more on contrast or want as lack see also:  http://choose.ws/2009/10/29/positive-pivots/choosing/what-place-do-you-choose-for-want-in-your-life/yucel/ )

How do I get what I want?

As we want, we desire more lack.  As we desire more lack, we create lack in our lives.  So, as we focus on want, we create want and lack in our lives.  And, as we always get what we focus on, we always get want we want.

If you find that when you want something, you notice a feeling of lack and that the thing you want is not in fact in your life, you are noticing the creatation of more lack, which is exactly what want is. 

By focusing on want, or lack, we are perpetrating more lack.

If you desire something, or choose something, or prefer something, you will get a different result than if you want something.

As the rich get richer and the poor get poorer, you will have what you are in gratitude of and lack what you want.

How then may we create consciously?

To actually create something we desire in our lives, we focus on the idea or feeling of what it is that we desire. 

Then we realize this thing we desire is already there for us in the infinity of the universe. 

Being there for us, we can be grateful for it. 

Focused thus on having it and being grateful for it, we may choose it, and by choosing it further perpetrate and multiply its presence through and in our lives.

Yours in choice,

Yucel

Last week a new friend told me short comings of “want” in front of a Chinese restaurant.  While we decided that “choose” was a good replacement for “want,” “want” has been so pervasive in vernacular that full divorce is taking time.  So, the search for additional tools to wean myself of “want” continues…

As blogged later last week, other alternatives for “want” include various synonyms of choose:

• decide
• pick
• embrace
• prefer
• desire
• like
• fancy
• love

 On a slightly different tack, there is a form of The Law of Attraction ( LOA ) called The Law of Circulation ( LOC ).

The LOC states when we give freely, whatever we give circulates and is given back to us, some would say ten fold. 

This concept of give and it is given is an old one and is included in many ancient venerable texts such as the bible:

 “Give, and it shall be given unto you in good measure pressed down, and shaken together, and running over… for with the same measure that Ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.”  Luke 6:38

 It is important to note that in giving, we give freely, and without desire for getting.  We cannot give what we do not have.  So, when we give, we acknowledge freely to ourselves that we gave because we have.

It is also important not to give till it hurts.  If it hurts as we give, hurt is put into circulation and hurt comes back to us.

If we give not freely, when we get it too will come back not freely, that is at a cost.

So as we give, we should give freely.

If we give freely and lovingly, it then comes back to us freely and lovingly through LOC.

What then if we “want” a cheeseburger?  What if we “give” a cheeseburger to someone, perhaps a friend?

If we want love, how about we give love to someone?

If we want money, what if we give money freely to some worthy cuase or person?

Remember, wanting is lacking.  We could just as easily have said or thought ”lack” in each of the above “want” sentences.

Since we cannot give what we do not have, if we give love to someone, we are giving what we have.   As we know, through LOA we get more of what we have.  Thus we increase the love in our lives through its giving.

When we freely give love, we might then just have more love.

Give freely all you give.

Yours in love,

Yucel

I am recently fascinated by the lack which is inherent in “want” or “wanting.”  Many self help gurus, programs, well intentioned friends and sales professionals focus squarely on our wants.  This week, we have explored how when we want, we are focused on and creating more lack in our lives through the Law of Attraction ( LOA , The Law).  On the other hand, when we Choose, by our Choice and through our Choosing we fix our Focus; and, through our Focus the Law of Attraction is set in Motion in consciously positive ways.  ( see:  http://choose.ws/2009/10/29/positive-pivots/choose/what-place-do-you-choose-for-want-in-your-life/yucel/ )

A Positive Pivot takes a miscreating thought, word or phrase, for example: ”I want you”, or “I miss you” and Pivots to a Positive Conscious Creation as in: ”I choose you”, or “I look forward to seeing you.”  ( see also:  http://choose.ws/2009/05/01/positive-pivots/hello-world/yucel/ )

We know that Choice, Choosing, and to Choose are readily available positive pivots we can utilize when we might be tempted to be in want.

It occurs to me that other other positive pivots are also available to replace lack and want in our lives.

Let us explore further, hopefully with your comments and help, how else we are able to divorce ourselves from “want” in our lives.

There are a ready category of synonyms for ”Choose” which form a nice starting point.   I have taken some examples of these from an online thesaurus ( see:  http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/choose  )

Some of these seem miscreating:

• want
• judge
• disposed to

These seem to hold promise:

• decide
• pick
• embrace
• prefer
• desire
• like
• fancy
• love

Still more are in a gray area and require further thought:

• adopt
• select
• devise
• design
• accept
• name

Now recall we are looking to replace “want” in our lives. 

With this in mind the gray list may work perhaps depending on what our context for the words and thoughts are.   Thus, I feel it requires more thought to freely utilize this gray list.   Perhaps you may help with your comments?

The miscreating list seems to me fairly obvious.  Perhaps you agree?

The list with promise seems to fall into two broad flavors of meanings.

Affection Affinity 

•  
  • Like
  • Love
  • Fancy
  • Desire
  • Prefer

Mind Made Up

•  
  • Decide
  • Pick
  • Embrace
  • Choose 

While my thoughts are still developing with regards to this area of replacing want,

Still here is where I am broadly leaning:

• I feel the Affection/Affinity list helps us to know what we are feeling and leaning towards, that is like or love. 
• Once we know this, we can go into a Mind Made Up reality and create consciously with the full force of The Law by deciding or choosing.

An example of this might be when looking at a menu, we go in this way:  “I Fancy a cheeseburger.  Yes, I Pick the cheddar cheeseburger with mushrooms.”

On the other hand, we can also do this in reverse order to get a feel for how we feel about something.  This is because once we decide on something, The Law is set in motion, and we get a better feel for it even before it is fully manifest.

This would go something like this:  “Yes, I Pick the cheddar cheeseburger with mushrooms.”  Then we wait, and notice consiously how this decision feels to us.  If it feels as though we like this idea, we then confirm, “Yes, that is what I Fancy.”  If it feels like we are not pleased with what we have set in motion, we know we can quickly make another decision, so long as the waitress is still hanging around or while it’s just floating in our heads as pure thought.

So, what do you Fancy?

Yours in choice,

Yucel